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47 – The Schema of Imperfection / Shame "If people truly knew me, they would reject me."
You are not a drop in the ocean. You are the entire ocean in a single drop. — Molānā 47 – The Schema of Imperfection / Shame "If people truly knew me, they would reject me." 1. That Inner Voice Whispering: "You're not good enough" Some people, behind a smile or apparent success, live with a subtle, constant feeling of shame. A sense of inner defect, of being fundamentally not enough. They may be professionally successful, appreciated, surrounded by friends... yet deep down,

Marya Sirous
15 hours ago4 min read


46 – The Social Isolation / Alienation Schema: “I’m different from others, I don’t belong.”
“You are a drop in the ocean, but the entire ocean resides within you.” — Molānā 46 – The Social Isolation / Alienation Schema: “I’m different from others, I don’t belong.” 1. When you’ve always felt like an outsider Some people have always felt like strangers to the world. As if they weren’t made of the same fabric as others. Not necessarily rejected, just… different. Misfits. Invisible. Even in childhood, they didn’t feel like they truly belonged. At home, they often wonde

Marya Sirous
4 days ago5 min read


45 — The Emotional Deprivation Schema: Believing That No One Will Ever Truly Love or Understand Me
Introductory Quote "You are not a drop in the ocean. You are the entire ocean, in a drop." — Molānā 45 — The Emotional Deprivation Schema: Believing That No One Will Ever Truly Love or Understand Me 1. The Invisible Wound: When Love Is Absent The emotional deprivation schema forms when, during childhood, our emotional needs are insufficiently met — even if material needs are provided.This schema doesn't necessarily stem from trauma or abuse. It often arises in emotionally “no

Marya Sirous
6 days ago3 min read


44 — The Mistrust/Abuse Schema: Understanding the Fear of Being Hurt, Used, or Humiliated
Introduction Quote “Pour your heart out, but into the hands of someone worthy,for not every stream leads to the ocean.”— Molānā 44 — The Mistrust/Abuse Schema: Understanding the Fear of Being Hurt, Used, or Humiliated 1. An Invisible Armor: Protecting at All Costs The mistrust/abuse schema develops in people who experienced betrayal, maltreatment, abuse, or manipulation very early in life. The child learns a painful truth: vulnerability is dangerous. It is safer not to trust

Marya Sirous
Jan 233 min read
Introduction to the Series: Understanding Our Inner Schemas
This series is intended for anyone who wishes to better understand their emotional and relational reactions.There is no need to have studied psychology manuals: each article will guide you step by step, using concrete examples, clear language, and practical tools you can apply in your daily life. Introduction to the Series: Understanding Our Inner Schemas From early childhood, every human being develops a unique way of perceiving the world, others, and themselves. These deep

Marya Sirous
Dec 12, 20253 min read


43 — The Abandonment and Instability Schema: Understanding the Fear of Losing the Other
“Do not remain in the shadows of fear.For even the longest night holds the promise of dawn.” — Mawlānā 43 — The Abandonment and Instability Schema: Understanding the Fear of Losing the Other 1. The Root of Emptiness: When Love Becomes Uncertain The abandonment schema is one of the most painful among the early maladaptive schemas identified by Jeffrey Young. It develops in early childhood when a child experiences emotional connection as unstable, unpredictable, or conditional.

Marya Sirous
Dec 12, 20253 min read


42-Prenuptial and Couple Counseling in Nice: What could you change within yourself to improve your relationship — and what is really stopping you?
Opening quote “Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to a better understanding of ourselves.” — Carl Gustav Jung Prenuptial and Couple Counseling in Nice: What could you change within yourself to improve your relationship — and what is really stopping you? Introduction It is easy to see what our partner should change. It is much harder to look honestly at ourselves.Yet a relationship grows the moment at least one partner chooses to evolve inwardly. Prenuptial

Marya Sirous
Oct 20, 20253 min read


41 – Prenuptial and Couple Counseling in Nice: Prenuptial and Couple Counseling in Nice: Which of Your Beliefs Does Your Partner Often Struggle With?
Opening Quote “We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are.” — Anaïs Nin 41 – Prenuptial and Couple Counseling in Nice: Which...

Marya Sirous
Oct 11, 20253 min read


40 – Prenuptial and Couple Counseling in Nice: What Could Be Improved in Your Life?
Opening Quote “What you do not transform within yourself will keep repeating in your life.” — Carl Gustav Jung 40 – Prenuptial and Couple...

Marya Sirous
Oct 7, 20254 min read


38 – Prenuptial and Couple Counseling in Nice: Have You Talked About Your Future Children? Your Dreams, Your Doubts, Your Educational Expectations?
Opening Quote "We do not inherit the earth from our ancestors, we borrow it from our children." — Antoine de Saint-Exupéry 38 –...

Marya Sirous
Oct 3, 20253 min read


39-Prenuptial and Couple Counseling in Nice: How Would Your Life Be Without Him/Her? Imagine!
"You only realize the value of what you have once it is gone." — Haruki Murakami Prenuptial and Couple Counseling in Nice: How Would Your...

Marya Sirous
Oct 3, 20253 min read


37 – Prenuptial & Couples Counseling in Nice: Trust, the Invisible but Essential Pillar of a Relationship
Opening quote “Without trust, there can be no true love.” — Friedrich Nietzsche 37 – Do you and your partner trust each other 100%? If...

Marya Sirous
Sep 9, 20253 min read


36-Prenuptial and Couples Counseling in Nice: How Well Do You Know Yourself? How Self-Centered Are You?
Opening Quote: "Know thyself, and you will know the universe and the gods." — Inscription at the Temple of Delphi (attributed to...

Marya Sirous
Sep 5, 20253 min read


35 – Have You and Your Partner Learned to Be Content Even Amid Ambition?
Opening Quote: "The secret of happiness lies not in the fulfillment of all our desires, but in the ability to appreciate what we already...

Marya Sirous
Sep 1, 20253 min read


34- Have You Clearly Shared Your Expectations With Your Partner? Are They Willing to Meet Them?
Opening Quote "Clarity is the foundation of every strong relationship." — Harville Hendrix Premarital and Couples Counseling in Nice 34-...

Marya Sirous
Sep 1, 20254 min read


33 – Discover Your Partner’s Expectations. Let Them Be a Source of Strength, Not Conflict.
Opening Quote: "True love begins when nothing is expected in return." — Antoine de Saint-Exupéry 33 – Discover Your Partner’s...

Marya Sirous
Aug 28, 20253 min read


32- Premarital and Couples Counseling: Do you prefer to grieve your partner forever, or grieve the expectations that will never be met in this relationship?
Opening quote: "What you do not want to see in yourself, you will find in others." — Carl Jung 32- Premarital and Couples Counseling: Do...

Marya Sirous
Jul 25, 20253 min read


31- Premarital and Couples Counseling in Nice: Do You Know What Really Affects Your Partner’s Mood? And Yours?
31- Premarital and Couples Counseling in Nice: Do You Know What Really Affects Your Partner’s Mood? And Yours? Introductory Quote "What...

Marya Sirous
Jul 22, 20253 min read


30- Premarital and Couples Counseling: Do You or Your Partner Embrace Your Femininity or Masculinity? And Do You Take Care of Your Appearance?
30-Premarital and Couples Counseling: Do You or Your Partner Embrace Your Femininity or Masculinity? And Do You Take Care of Your...

Marya Sirous
Jul 15, 20255 min read


29 – Premarital and Couples Counseling: Can You or Your Partner Express Your Feelings and Needs?
29 – Premarital and Couples Counseling: Can You or Your Partner Express Your Feelings and Needs? Opening Quote“ What is not expressed...

Marya Sirous
Jul 12, 20254 min read
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