41 – Prenuptial and Couple Counseling in Nice: Prenuptial and Couple Counseling in Nice: Which of Your Beliefs Does Your Partner Often Struggle With?

Marya Sirous
Oct 11
3 min read

Opening Quote

“We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are.”

— Anaïs Nin

41 – Prenuptial and Couple Counseling in Nice: Which of Your Beliefs Does Your Partner Often Struggle With?

(Whether it’s limiting or not doesn’t matter)

Introduction

Every person builds their view of the world through beliefs — some inherited, others shaped by experience.They influence our choices, our reactions, and our way of loving. In a couple, these beliefs can become sources of tension… or of growth.

You may believe that a couple should share everything.That money must be managed jointly.That children should be raised with firmness.But maybe your partner sees things differently.These differences aren’t necessarily toxic — they reveal two distinct inner worlds.

Prenuptial and Couple Counseling in Nice helps you identify these beliefs, name them, and turn them into dialogue rather than conflict. Book your session here to grow together: https://www.e-coach.fr/book-online

CASE STUDY 1: Soraya and Adrien – The Duty of Loyalty

Soraya grew up in a family where loyalty to one’s parents was sacred.She believes you must always support your parents, even when they’re intrusive.Adrien, on the other hand, values independence within the couple.He doesn’t understand why his mother-in-law gets involved in their decisions.

During counseling, they discover that this conflict stems from one of Soraya’s core beliefs:

“If I say no to my mother, I’m a bad daughter.”In her family, this belief wasn’t limiting… but within her couple, it has become one.

Lesson: A belief is never universal. What once built you may now block your shared “we.”

Want to identify the beliefs that undermine your relationship?Book your session here: https://www.e-coach.fr/book-online

CASE STUDY 2: Julien and Alexia – “Love Should Be Natural”

Julien believes that when love is real, everything flows effortlessly.“If it’s meant to be, it just works,” he says.Alexia believes, instead, that love is something you build — through effort, care, and attention.

This difference creates tension: Julien forgets important dates, avoids difficult conversations, and doesn’t see the need to “work” on the relationship.Alexia feels lonely in the effort.

They realize that Julien carries a romantic belief shaped by movies and books from his youth. It’s not “wrong,” but it’s incompatible with the reality of a lasting relationship that requires communication.

Lesson: It’s not the belief itself that’s toxic — it’s its mismatch with the reality of the relationship.

Want to break free from your automatic patterns?Book your session here: https://www.e-coach.fr/book-online

Psychological and Theoretical Analysis

Psychologist Albert Ellis, founder of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy, explained that it’s our beliefs — not events — that generate our emotions.He distinguished between rational beliefs (which help us) and irrational beliefs (which cause suffering and conflict).

In sociology, Pierre Bourdieu introduced the concept of habitus — the invisible set of patterns that shape how we think and act. In couples, these internalized patterns can clash without either partner realizing why.

Philosopher Simone Weil wrote that “attention is the rarest and purest form of generosity.”In a relationship, paying attention to your partner’s beliefs is a profound act of love.

Prenuptial and Couple Counseling in Nice helps you see beyond behavior — into the beliefs that shape it:www.e-coach.fr/book-online

Practical Exercises to Transform Your Differences

List three beliefs that guide your choices (money, family, education, etc.).
Ask your partner which of these beliefs bothers them, and why.
Exchange perspectives: “I understand this belief, even if I don’t share it.”
Reflect together on what you wish to pass on to your children — are your beliefs compatible?
Set up a monthly, non-judgmental conversation to talk about your views of the world.

Transform your differences into bridges, not walls:https://www.e-coach.fr/book-online

Conclusion

No belief is inherently right or wrong.What matters is how it impacts your relationship.If a belief divides you, it’s worth questioning.If it enriches you both, it’s worth nurturing.

Updating your beliefs means evolving. It’s an act of maturity — and of trust in love.And sometimes, it begins with a simple question: