42-Prenuptial and Couple Counseling in Nice: What could you change within yourself to improve your relationship — and what is really stopping you?

Marya Sirous
Oct 20
3 min read

Opening quote

“Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to a better understanding of ourselves.”

— Carl Gustav Jung

Prenuptial and Couple Counseling in Nice:

What could you change within yourself to improve your relationship — and what is really stopping you?

Introduction

It is easy to see what our partner should change. It is much harder to look honestly at ourselves.Yet a relationship grows the moment at least one partner chooses to evolve inwardly.

Prenuptial and couple counseling in Nice is not about transforming you into someone else — it is about helping you reconnect with the parts of yourself that have been forgotten, silenced, or wounded: what you don’t say, what you avoid, what you deny.Sometimes, a small inner adjustment can change everything in the relationship.

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CASE STUDY 1: Farid & Clémence – When control takes over

Farid is a perfectionist. In the couple, this shows up through constant corrections — about organisation, tidiness, or how to talk to the children.Clémence feels permanently evaluated.

During a session he says:“I just want everything to be right.”But as he digs deeper, he discovers that this need for control comes from his childhood — he felt loved only when he succeeded.

He realises he isn’t actually trying to control Clémence — he is trying to control the anxiety inside him.

Lesson: Changing yourself doesn’t mean betraying who you are — it means healing what still hurts.

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CASE STUDY 2: Élodie & Mehdi – When silence becomes a wall

Élodie never complains. When something hurts her, she smiles and shuts down.Mehdi believes she doesn’t care. Yet she loves him deeply.

In session, she finally admits:“I’m afraid that if I speak, he will pull away.”

She realises that her silence — which she believed was protecting the relationship — was actually creating distance.

Step by step, she learns to express her feelings. Mehdi learns to listen without judgment.

Lesson: What we don’t say out of fear of losing the other… sometimes ends up pushing them further away.

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PSYCHOLOGICAL & THEORETICAL ANALYSIS

Carl Rogers emphasised congruence: being aligned between what we think, what we feel, and what we express.When this alignment is broken, the relationship suffers.

Psychoanalysis also sheds light on repetition compulsion: we unconsciously recreate old emotional patterns until they are understood and freed.

Sociologist Eva Illouz speaks about “emotional capital”: what each partner is willing to share or withhold emotionally.Vulnerability, when expressed consciously, is not a weakness — it is a form of relational competence.

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PRACTICAL STEPS TO IDENTIFY AND UNBLOCK WHAT HOLDS YOU BACK

Each evening, ask yourself:“Was I aligned with myself today?”
Ask your partner:“What would you like me to better understand about myself?”
Write a letter to yourself:“What I don’t dare to change yet — but I know is necessary.”
Identify the fear behind the blockage:fear of judgment, abandonment, rejection, or failure.
Try one small shift:say no, express a feeling, release control — and observe.

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Conclusion

Changing something in yourself does not mean renouncing who you are.It means choosing the person you want to become — for yourself first, and then for the relationship.

What a couple needs is often not a dramatic transformation, but a shift in awareness: a softer word, a moment of truth, a step toward alignment.

Asking “What can I change?” is already proof that you are willing to love differently — and more deeply.