36-Prenuptial and Couples Counseling in Nice: How Well Do You Know Yourself? How Self-Centered Are You?

Marya Sirous
Sep 5
3 min read

Opening Quote:"Know thyself, and you will know the universe and the gods." — Inscription at the Temple of Delphi (attributed to Socrates)

Prenuptial and Couples Counseling in Nice: How Well Do You Know Yourself? How Self-Centered Are You?

Introduction

Many couples focus on what the other person “should change.” But how many take the time to ask themselves: Who am I? What drives me, blocks me, scares me, or makes me happy?

In prenuptial and couples counseling in Nice, true self-exploration helps avoid projections, misunderstandings, and conflicts. Knowing yourself better also means loving better.

Case Study 1: Clara & Imrane – I Thought I Knew Myself...

Clara is very attentive to Imrane. She anticipates his needs, moods, and doubts. Yet she admits she doesn’t know how to answer when he asks: “And you, what do you need?”

In therapy, she realizes she has always learned to adapt. As a child, she was the responsible big sister, the discreet student, the attentive partner. But behind all this, there was little room for her own tastes, limits, or ambitions.

I guided them so that Clara could explore her own needs and learn to express them, helping her rebuild a stronger personal identity within the relationship.

Lesson: We cannot offer true love if we are not connected to ourselves.

📍 Prenuptial and couples counseling in Nice helps you reconnect with who you are: https://www.e-coach.fr/book-online

Case Study 2: Nassim & Aurélie – Too Self-Centered?

Nassim often hears he is “too self-centered.” He works out every day, reads a lot, takes time for himself. Aurélie sometimes feels left out.

But in therapy, she realizes that this focus is not selfishness but a form of personal stability. Nassim needs time alone to be fully present afterward. The question is not to deny this need for introspection but to find a balance where the other also feels included.

I helped them understand the value of personal time and create shared moments so that both partners feel recognized and included in the relationship.

Lesson: Focusing on yourself does not mean moving away from the other — it means learning to be well so you can love better.

📍 Prenuptial and couples counseling in Nice helps you find this balance: https://www.e-coach.fr/book-online

Psychological and Theoretical Insights

Carl Jung, founder of analytical psychology, wrote: “Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens.”

Getting to know yourself means accessing your inner world — your wounds, patterns, and deep desires. In a couple, this is the necessary step to stop expecting the other to fix what you don’t even understand about yourself.

Research in humanistic psychology (Abraham Maslow, Carl Rogers) emphasizes the need for authenticity and self-esteem as the foundation of a fulfilling relationship.

Finally, contemporary sociology (notably Eva Illouz) shows that our search for the “ideal other” often hides an escape from ourselves.

📍 Prenuptial and couples counseling in Nice supports you in this essential self-exploration: https://www.e-coach.fr/book-online

Practical Steps to Know Yourself Better

Set aside time alone each week to listen to your feelings without distraction.
Write down your recurring needs, fears, or frustrations — they are key indicators.
Ask yourself: Am I living to meet others’ expectations?
Try new activities without pressure to perform — just to discover what truly brings you joy.
Share these insights with your partner, not to be validated, but to be truly seen.

📍 Prenuptial and couples counseling in Nice guides you in this exploration of self-discovery as a couple: https://www.e-coach.fr/book-online

Conclusion

Knowing yourself means not losing yourself in the relationship. It also means offering the other person a stable, self-aware partner open to growth.

Self-focus is not indifference. It is the foundation for loving without fusion or escape. So why not start exploring that part of yourself you sometimes hesitate to face?