31- Premarital and Couples Counseling in Nice: Do You Know What Really Affects Your Partner’s Mood? And Yours?

Marya Sirous
Jul 22
3 min read

31- Premarital and Couples Counseling in Nice: Do You Know What Really Affects Your Partner’s Mood? And Yours?

Introductory Quote

"What touches us isn't always what shouts loudly, but often what whispers in the background."

— Anonymous

Introduction

In a couple, each partner’s mood colors the everyday experience. Some days, everything flows. Other days, a word, a look, or a forgotten task is enough to cloud the atmosphere — and we often don’t know why.

Many tensions stem from emotional misunderstandings. We think the other is overreacting, too sensitive, cold, or moody. But often, we’re simply unaware of each other's emotional triggers — and sometimes, even our own.

Case Study 1: Elsa and François – The Unspoken Trigger

Elsa and François love each other deeply. But Elsa shuts down whenever François checks his phone during meals. He doesn’t understand — he only glances at a couple of messages.

During a counseling session, she finally tells him:"At home, no one talked at the table. We were physically there, but no one looked at each other. When you're on your phone, I feel like I’m back in that silence."

The phone wasn’t the real issue — it was the emotional imprint it triggered in Elsa. Once François understood that, he changed his behavior. And Elsa felt truly seen for the first time.

👉 Premarital and couples counseling in Nice helps you connect the present with each partner’s emotional history:https://www.e-coach.fr/book-online

Case Study 2: Maya and Nathan – The Delayed Reaction

Nathan never understands what’s bothering Maya. She’s cheerful in the morning, calm during the day… then suddenly cold or distant without warning. It makes him feel insecure.

During counseling, Maya finally puts words to the phenomenon:"It takes me time to feel things. When something hurts me, I don’t realize it right away. But in the evening, it all comes up."

She didn’t realize her shifts in mood were emotional delays — not rejections of Nathan.

👉 Premarital and couples counseling in Nice helps identify each partner’s emotional rhythm:https://www.e-coach.fr/book-online

Case Study 3: Léonard and Yalda – Misunderstood Good Mood

Yalda puts a lot of effort into pleasing Léonard — home-cooked meals, surprises, little gifts. But he often remains distant or neutral. One day, she snaps:"You’re never happy!"

He answers calmly:"What makes me happy is when you sit and talk with me. Not the things you do. Just being together."

Yalda realized she was projecting her own triggers for joy (giving, creating, offering), while ignoring his (sharing, slowing down, being).

👉 Premarital and couples counseling in Nice helps you discover your partner’s unique emotional language:https://www.e-coach.fr/book-online

Psychological Analysis

Every human being has a unique emotional map. What irritates, soothes, reassures, or hurts you depends on:

Your personal history
Your emotional education
Past wounds
Your internal rhythm

We often distinguish two types of emotional triggers:

Stress triggers: noise, pressure, criticism, feeling ignored
Well-being triggers: rituals, compliments, silence, physical touch

The trap? Believing the other reacts “just like me,” or thinking they “overreact.”

👉 Premarital and couples counseling in Nice helps you map your respective emotional triggers:https://www.e-coach.fr/book-online

Concrete Practices to Try as a Couple

Each of you: list what puts you in a good mood (words, gestures, attitudes, atmospheres...)
Then make a list of what puts you in a bad mood
Exchange your lists without commenting. Just read them.
Later, discuss one or two things that surprised or touched you.
Try a weekly ritual:
👉 “Today, I need…”
👉 “Right now, what weighs on me is…”

👉 Premarital and couples counseling in Nice helps make emotions visible and respected:https://www.e-coach.fr/book-online

Inspirational Conclusion

Love isn’t about guessing what the other feels. It’s about learning to ask, receive, listen, and adjust — without guilt, judgment, or expectation.

Knowing what makes your partner shine or darken is a step toward their inner world. Asking yourself the same question brings you closer to inner peace.