38 – Prenuptial and Couple Counseling in Nice: Have You Talked About Your Future Children? Your Dreams, Your Doubts, Your Educational Expectations?

Marya Sirous
Oct 3
3 min read

Opening Quote

"We do not inherit the earth from our ancestors, we borrow it from our children."

— Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

38 – Prenuptial and Couple Counseling in Nice: Have You Talked About Your Future Children? Your Dreams, Your Doubts, Your Educational Expectations?

Introduction

Having a child is not just a life project. It is an inner upheaval, a profound commitment, and often a projection of oneself. Within a couple, this question crystallizes desires, fears, family legacies… and sometimes irreconcilable differences.

Before even conceiving a child, it is essential to speak with clarity and honesty. Do you want children? When? How many? Under what conditions? What kind of education do you wish to provide? What values, dreams, or restrictions do you want to pass on?

Prenuptial and couple counseling in Nice helps you address these essential questions, without taboos, to build a strong future together that respects each partner’s aspirations.

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Case Study 1: Clara & Yazid – Two Different Dreams

Clara always knew she wanted to be a mother. She imagines two children, a lively home, a dog, and a large library. Yazid, on the other hand, grew up in a big family where he felt suffocated. He doubts his ability to be a father.

In their early sessions, they avoided the subject. But when it surfaced, tension rose. Clara held on to her dream, Yazid withdrew… until he exploded.

Prenuptial and couple counseling in Nice helped them distinguish between two things: the desire for a child… and fear. Yazid was not opposed to having children, but he envisioned another model of parenthood. He wanted to first build a strong foundation before feeling ready.

Lesson: Behind a divergence, there are often two visions to reconcile—not simply a refusal.

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Case Study 2: Joanna & Christophe – Education in Conflict

Joanna is a preschool teacher. She advocates for a gentle upbringing, without shouting or punishment. Christophe, the son of a military man, believes in structure, discipline, and strict rules.

They agree on having a child. But their vision of education clashes on almost everything: nutrition, screen time, sleep routines, authority…

In therapy, they learned to refocus on their shared values: respect, safety, and love. They created a “parental code” that did not erase their differences but integrated them around a common goal: raising a free and responsible child.

Lesson: Before educating a child, adults must first listen to one another.

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Psychological and Theoretical Analysis

Psychologist Donald Winnicott emphasized the role of the “good enough mother” — not perfect, but able to respond with flexibility and presence to the child’s needs. This also applies to couples: being a “good enough parent-to-be” is already a huge commitment.

Sociologist Ulrich Beck described parenthood as a modern project: in an individualistic society, having a child becomes a personal choice, a quest for meaning. But for this project to be sustainable, it must be co-constructed within the couple.

Finally, Carl Gustav Jung reminded us that a child is also the mirror of the family unconscious. He inherits far more than DNA: he receives the expectations, wounds, and hopes of his parents.

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Practical Exercises to Explore Your Parenting Project

Ask out loud: Do you want children? When? How many?
Each partner writes down their vision of a future with children (rhythm, education, values).
List your fears: pregnancy, education, parental roles.
Talk about your family models: what do you want to reproduce? What do you want to avoid?
Draft an “imaginary parental contract” where each of you writes down 5 fundamental educational principles.

📍 Prenuptial and couple counseling in Nice can guide you through these steps: https://www.e-coach.fr/book-online

Conclusion

Having a child together is not just a logistical decision. It is an emotional, ethical, and relational commitment. It is a project that requires knowing yourself, listening to the other, and uniting within your differences.