39-Prenuptial and Couple Counseling in Nice: How Would Your Life Be Without Him/Her? Imagine!

Marya Sirous
Oct 3
3 min read

"You only realize the value of what you have once it is gone."

— Haruki Murakami

Prenuptial and Couple Counseling in Nice: How Would Your Life Be Without Him/Her? Imagine!

Introduction

Sometimes, we don’t realize the importance of a person until they step away—even if only in our imagination. Prenuptial and couple counseling in Nice offers a powerful exercise: imagine your life without your partner. Not to feed fear, but to cultivate gratitude and lucidity.

And if, tomorrow, he or she were no longer there? Death, departure, separation, detention, military service… Would that absence reveal a painful void, or perhaps a relief?

This article invites you to explore this possibility, to better understand your attachments, your fears, and what your partner truly brings into your life.

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Case Study 1: Sofia & Jérôme – Having to Handle Everything Alone

Sofia and Jérôme have lived together for six years. At times, she feels suffocated by the routine: Jérôme is loud, always present, very organized, sometimes rigid.

One day, he is sent abroad for a three-month mission. The first few days, Sofia feels she can breathe again. But gradually, she discovers all the things Jérôme used to take care of quietly: thoughtful grocery shopping, car maintenance, calming calls to his mother to ease family tensions… She feels alone.

When he returns, she tells him: “Your absence made me realize your true place in my life.”

Lesson: Imagining the absence of the other also reveals their hidden value.

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Case Study 2: Mehdi & Gabriel – Love in Routine

Mehdi and Gabriel have been together for ten years. Their daily life is calm, maybe too calm. Mehdi feels Gabriel no longer makes an effort. At times, he even wonders if he still loves him.

During a counseling workshop in Nice, they are asked to do an exercise: “Close your eyes. Imagine your partner is gone, and you must empty his closet. What do you feel?” Mehdi begins to cry. In reality, he had not realized how precious Gabriel’s quiet presence was. It wasn’t that he no longer loved him—it was that he had grown used to his light.

Lesson: It is not love that is lacking, but awareness of what love creates.

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Psychological and Theoretical Insights

Irvin Yalom, existential psychiatrist, explains that awareness of death transforms the way we love. Imagining the absence of the other anchors us in a hidden truth: everything is impermanent.

Boris Cyrulnik speaks of “anticipated suffering,” which, far from being negative, can actually strengthen the bond and cultivate tenderness in everyday life.

In philosophy, Simone Weil writes: “True attention is the kind we give to what could disappear.” Imagining the absence of the other pushes us to look more deeply, and more truthfully.

These reflections help you root your relationship in what truly matters: https://www.e-coach.fr/book-online

Practical Exercises to Strengthen Your Bond

Close your eyes and imagine a week without your partner. Write down what you would truly miss.
Write a letter to your partner as if you could never speak to them again. What would you want them to know?
Create a weekly gratitude ritual: “What I appreciated about you this week is…”
Try the reverse visualization: imagine you are separated, and then you meet again. What would you say?
Imagine for a moment that you are separated: you are no longer together, and the other has already started a new life with someone else. What does that stir in you?
Then imagine that this person no longer exists: you will never see them again, not at home, not in the street, not at celebrations or while traveling… never. What do you feel then?