37 – Prenuptial & Couples Counseling in Nice: Trust, the Invisible but Essential Pillar of a Relationship

Marya Sirous
Sep 9
3 min read

Opening quote

“Without trust, there can be no true love.”

— Friedrich Nietzsche

37 – Do you and your partner trust each other 100%? If not, what should you do?

Introduction

In relationships, we often talk about communication, compatibility, or shared plans. But without full trust, nothing holds. A couple can survive an argument, a temporary separation, or even a financial crisis… but rarely sustained suspicion.

Prenuptial and couples counseling in Nice helps you identify the cracks in your trust, understand where they come from, and—most importantly—rebuild a solid foundation.

📍 Book a session to work deeply on this core aspect of your relationship: https://www.e-coach.fr/book-online

Case Study 1: Salim & Julie — The Shadow of the Past

Julie is deeply in love with Salim, yet she secretly checks his phone. She was cheated on in a previous relationship. Salim, in turn, grows wary of this constant monitoring: “I have nothing to hide, but I hate feeling controlled.”

In session, they realize Julie is projecting an old wound onto the current relationship. The issue isn’t Salim—it’s the unresolved trauma. Trust doesn’t return by demanding proof; it is rebuilt by restoring a sense of safety.

Lesson: If your past prevents you from trusting today, it isn’t your partner’s job to fix it. It’s yours to heal.

📍 Counseling in Nice helps you tell what belongs to your partner—and what belongs to you: https://www.e-coach.fr/book-online

Case Study 2: Adrien & Kheira — When “Total Transparency” Kills Trust

From the start, Adrien and Kheira chose to be “totally transparent”: shared passwords, every outing pre-approved. Two years later, Kheira feels she has no personal space. Adrien says, “If you have nothing to hide, you shouldn’t need privacy.”

Therapy reveals that trust isn’t the absence of secrets; it’s the presence of mutual respect. Confusing control with honesty has suffocated their bond.

Lesson: Trust also means letting the other person breathe.

📍 Counseling in Nice helps you build adult trust—without infantilizing each other: https://www.e-coach.fr/book-online

Psychological & Theoretical Lens

According to Erik Erikson, trust is the first developmental task (“trust vs. mistrust” in early childhood). If it’s poorly formed, it impacts all later relationships—especially intimate ones.

Researcher Brené Brown reminds us that trust is built through repeated micro-actions: keeping promises, respecting boundaries, listening without judgment. It isn’t a vague feeling; it’s an accumulation of reliable facts.

Finally, Simone de Beauvoir wrote that “authentic love requires recognizing the other as a free subject.” If we try to control, we betray that freedom—and therefore trust.

📍 Counseling in Nice helps you understand the deep foundations of trust: https://www.e-coach.fr/book-online

Practical Exercises to Strengthen Trust

Stop surveillance: ban the constant “Where were you?”
List actions that hurt you in the past—and separate them from your current partner.
Set up a monthly “trust review”: what you appreciated, what felt difficult.
Voice doubts without accusation: “I felt unsafe when…”
Decide together what is shared and what remains personal (phones, social media, finances, etc.).

📍 These practices are simple but powerful. Explore them in session: https://www.e-coach.fr/book-online

Conclusion

Trust doesn’t appear by magic. It is built daily, in the consistency between words and actions. It erodes through silence, suspicion, and unfair accusations. And it is reborn—always—through respect, listening, and the courage to believe again.

If you want lasting love, work on trust. Not only in the other person… but in yourself, in your capacity to love without fear.